Now you understand the ways in which the brain changes in response to regular complaining. You are also aware that these patterns can be changed, making positive thinking come more naturally with practice. While it will not be easy to break the complaining habit, it might help to understand the benefits of choosing contentment over complaints. When you make a proactive decision to kick complaints to the curb, you will start to see a few good things happen.

Relaxation

One of the first things you may note is that you feel more relaxed. Letting go of gripes about things you probably cannot change anyway will lead you to feel less stressed. Complaining on a regular basis can cause you to feel frenzied and on edge. Deciding to try to change your perspective when things do not go your way can increase your relaxation and lower your stress.

Happiness

 Not to mention the ways in which your brain begins to restructure itself. Your neurons will begin to form efficient connections toward more positive thinking, and your levels of the stress hormone cortisol will begin to decrease. Happier feelings are just around the corner when you start to complain less.

Connection

Speaking of connection, your relationships with other people will surely improve when you drop the Debbie Downer routine. People will be more enthusiastic about connecting with you. No one likes to be around people who are negative all the time. In addition, once you begin to make a conscious effort to lessen your moaning and groaning about others, you will naturally feel more empathy and compassion toward them. This type of understanding goes a long way toward strengthening bonds between people.

Empowerment

As you begin to achieve some success with reframing your complaints, you will start to feel more confident and secure in yourself. It is empowering to know that you are in charge of your feelings and actions. This boost in self-esteem is likely to build on itself, allowing you to feel stronger in other decisions across your life. It is amazing how making one small change can be the catalyst for making even bigger alterations to your life.

These are merely a few of the ways your life will improve when you choose contentment over complaints. It is great to know that when we make these changes we can begin to discover all the great things that are yet to come

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Cindy Rae Fancher