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Do You Realize How Others Perceive Your Complaining?

If you have been reading my blog for the past week, the chances are good that you would like to lessen your complaining and grow your contentment. You could also be interested in learning more so you can help someone who has a habit of complaining.

In previous entries you have been given some ways to begin making small changes on your path to becoming a more optimistic person, but have you ever considered what impression you might be giving off by regular griping and moaning? Once you know some of the effects this can have on your reputation, you will probably be more motivated to make a change. Let's take a look at how others perceive your complaining so that you can use that information to propel you toward your goals.

Puts People on the Defensive

First, hearing you complain frequently is apt to put people on the defensive. This is especially true if you are complaining about them, but it also comes into play when you are criticizing anyone else. Those hearing your complaints may start to wonder why it is you are so critical all the time. They may feel attacked, leading them to jump to the defense of themselves or others. An occasional complaint is much easier to swallow than those that seem never ending.

Paints You as Lazy

Did you ever stop to think that being a downer might send the message to others that you are lazy or irresponsible? Complainers have a way of shirking responsibility, blaming anyone else for problems to avoid accepting any part of a problem. They also may be a vocal complainer to get out of doing what needs to be done or proactively taking part in a solution to their problems. This is not a message you want to send.

Loss of Trust

Also, people tend to distrust a complainer. They may come to believe you would be just as critical of them as you are of the other people you whine about. It is hard to trust someone who seems to only see the negative side of a situation. If this describes you, it is important to understand the type of vibe you are giving off.

Damages Your Reputation

That is right. This constant complaining is sending all kinds of messages about you, and none of them are positive. The bottom line is that you are developing a negative reputation among those who regularly hear your complaints. No matter what conclusions they have drawn about you and your griping, the result is one that paints you in a bad light.

The fact of the matter is, there are more interpersonal consequences to constant complaining than there is time to mention here. You are doing damage to your reputation and the ways in which you're seen by others. The good news is that this damage can be lessened, and you can overcome it by making the concrete changes you are learning throughout our challenge.

Facing the Wolf by Cindy Rae Fancher

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10 comments

  • Martha – Thanks for commenting and being positive!

    Cindy Rae Fancher
  • JulieJordonScott – Thank you for the nice comment on my art!

    Cindy Rae Fancher
  • Virginia Allain – It is so easy for any of us to complain. It is especially easy when I am tired. Perhaps that is when you husband notices?

    Cindy Rae Fancher
  • Angie Vallejo – It is manipulative and very damaging to relationships! Thank you for Commenting.

    Cindy Rae Fancher
  • Dominque Walton Brooks – Thank you so very much! I am glad you liked my post and my art. It means alot to me.

    Cindy Rae Fancher

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